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Hey, Women of My Generation: Some of our Daughters “Get” It!

March 25th, 2014 by Melinda Blau

Melissa (daughter) - Jessie (mother)

Our latest addition to the Buzz  “My Mother at 80: The Lessons She Whispered in My Ear” by Melissa T. Shultz, was originally published on the Huffington Post.  It’s funny how one randomly stumbles into little corners of the Internet and finds common ground.  I happened to be on Facebook when Melissa posted it for her fellow Better After 50 Writers–a group I’d discovered only a few days earlier.  Many of the posters are mothers themselves and, I suspect, have a lot to say about their mothers and mothers-in-law.

I loved Melissa’s piece because it’s about a transformative (and for some, healing) mother/daughter passage–a collection of moments in which mothers and daughters see beyond their roles.  It doesn’t necessarily happen at the same time–sadly, for some it never happens at all–but as we age and change seats at the generational table, our daughters come to see us as women, not just as their mothers–and we respect them as women, too, not just as our daughters.

Daughters, mothers, how does this piece speak to you?   As time passes, do you feel yourselves looking at each other different eyes?  Does you see each other as women?   Do stories like this give you hope?

The Buzz is MotherU’s growing repository of ideas about this particular generation of mothers and daughters. I welcome your submissions.

Leave you comments here, or tweet me: @melindablau.

And if you’d like to read more about and from Melissa, here’s where to find her on Huffington Post, on Twitter, and here.

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3 Responses to “Hey, Women of My Generation: Some of our Daughters “Get” It!”

  1. Bari Adelman says:

    Here are my links from BAFW–M darling mom has Alzheimers now. She was a true role model in her time–I miss her, although she is here, every single day.

    http://betterafter50.com/2013/07/i-dont-want-to-be-a-burden/ and http://betterafter50.com/2013/05/a-different-kind-of-loss/

  2. Melinda Blau says:

    Bari, both pieces brought tears to my eyes. The fear of not wanting to be “a burden” lurks in the hearts of many women of my generation, even as we live active, interesting, full lives. We can only hope that our daughters will be as kind and compassionate as you. I identify, too, because I have been “losing” a beloved aunt to dimentia for more years than I can count. It is unimaginably painful. My heart goes out to you.

  3. Bari Adelman says:

    Thank you Melinda. I am glad the piece spoke to you and appreciate your kind words!

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